Wednesday, February 19, 2020

"We Are Two"!

It was the second time that I was hearing such a small, yet negatively powerful, statement. In fact you would think that I would understand it immediately, but I did not.

The first time that I heard it, was from a born again girl...okay, she said that she was born again and I had no reason, whatsoever, to question that. As we chatted, she said in response to a question that I had asked her that, "we are two". I did not understand it. Therefore, I indicated that I had not understood, and again she said, "WE ARE TWO. In other words, he is married"! I almost slapped her! Well, she went ahead and explained certain things, but that still did not make it right to me. Therefore, after I left her presence, I reached for my pen and notebook, and included her on my list. That relationship had to end! Before long, it did, to the glory of the Most High GOD, and he returned to his marriage!

Now, a number of years after that, another beautiful young girl was making the same statement, and I still did not get it because I expected more of, and for, her I guess. Thankfully, this time, she was not born again, but nonetheless, she was (is) still valuable! I was also equally thankful that she was not seated right across me because I honestly would have loved to shake some sense into her! Anyway, again I pulled out my notebook and pen, and made a new list, with her name as first entry!

I wonder if women have lost all sense self worth. What makes you settle for second place? You see, by the time you say that, "I am the second wife", you are saying that, "I am not as good as the first", and that "all that I can be, and that I actually am, is second best". You are also saying that, "he is the only man, who can marry me. Therefore, I have to settle for second place". You must realize that the two women both knew the deal, "she is first and will always be, and you are second and will always be". It was sad. It reminded me of a life long time ago where, even if he was not married, I forgot my worth for a while. Thankfully, I found it again, by the grace of GOD!

Now, allow me to do something for you that no woman ever did for me, then. Allow me to remind you, that you are valuable. You are not supposed to be second best, but best! You are not supposed to be second, third, or fourth wife, but ONLY wife! Do not allow him to make you second. If he wants to make you one of many, wait on GOD (by His grace) for the one, who will make you one and only.


Dear GOD, I repent for the mistakes that I have made. Please forgive me, for not seeing my worth. I now decree that I will never settle for second best. LORD, show me my true worth and may I never forget it.

I now decree that I will never be in a relationship or marriage, where there are three or more parties, for I now know my worth. It will always be my husband and I.

In Jesus Christ's name, I have prayed, amen.

Thursday, January 2, 2020

When The Heat is On!

I chose the right pan and put the ghee into it. Very reluctantly, I obeyed the voice of GOD and informed my neighbour, who did not like the smell of it, as it cooked. Since, I preferred to buy ghee in its ‘raw’ form, I had to put it on the fire, for about ten or so minutes, in order to make it ready or edible.

Therefore, as she closed her door and windows, to keep out the smell, I turned on the heat and began the process.

It was quite noisy as the fire did its job. Some ‘impurities’ rose to the surface and before long, it went silent, not because I had turned down the heat, but because it was ready! Therefore, I turned off the fire, reached for a big spoon, scooped off the layer on top and left it to cool.

However, unlike other times, this time, I was attentive to the spiritual lesson that it left in its wake.  As the strong aroma slowly made its way out of the room, I pondered on ‘these things’.

“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit” (Galatians 5:19-25).

Sometimes, like ghee in its raw form, GOD puts on (in) the fire. As we experience the heat, we make a lot of noise – we are not yet ready! The fire, could be the challenges that assail us in life, for instance, spiritual attacks, a stressful marriage, a ‘difficult’ neighbour, a bad boss, to mention but a few. Yet, the noise could be reflected in impurities like angry statements, quarrels, slander, gossip, unwholesome talk, negative statements, among other works of the flesh! Therefore, as GOD puts us on (in) the fire, these ‘impurities’ rise to the top where everybody can see them or smell them!

However, as we get ready, we learn to be more silent, not because GOD has turned down the heat, but because we are now ready! We are now so mature and peaceful that regardless of the strength of the fire, we are silent – they will not hear a word from us!

How much noise, if any, are you making now that the heat is on? Your level of noise will often tell you, and us, how immature you still are, be it at home, work, in a friendship, relationship or in marriage.


Lord, teach me how to brave the heat. Remove all impurities in me and may I keep my peace, as I walk in the Spirit at all times. In Jesus’ name, I have prayed, amen.

Thursday, November 14, 2019

Helpers of the War

"And David went out to meet them, and answered and said unto them, If ye be come peaceably unto me to help me, mine heart shall be knit unto you: but if ye be come to betray me to mine enemies, seeing there is no wrong in mine hands, the God of our fathers look thereon, and rebuke it. Then the spirit came upon Amasai, who was chief of the captains, and he said, Thine are we, David, and on thy side, thou son of Jesse: peace, peace be unto thee, and peace be to thine helpers; for thy God helpeth thee. Then David received them, and made them captains of the band" (1 Chronicles 12:17-18).

It is my practice to ask GOD to bring me 'helpers of the war'. Therefore, when someone comes into my life, I will often take a moment and ask GOD, "is he the one"?

Wednesday, November 13, 2019

David or Solomon?

Even if, they were actually related, the two men were very different, yet similar in a way! However, allow me to highlight only the differences, today.

One was a fighter, yet the other was a man of wisdom, but also of 'love'.

King David, won fierce battles by the grace of GOD, and he wrote about them. The book of Psalms, is pregnant with them.

Solomon (his son) wrote the 'songs of Solomon' and the proverbs.

Yes, we are related through our Father in heaven. However, you must know who you are dealing with. Is it David or Solomon? Listen intently to the language and deal wisely with the one, who stands before you!

Tuesday, November 12, 2019

When GOD Says, "Move"

"The Lord shall send the rod of Your strength out of Zion. Rule in the midst of Your enemies" (Psalm 110:2).

I remember a place that I had begged GOD to take me out of, and He had said, "NO. Rule in the midst of your enemies"!

My enemies, were so 'fierce' that I did not know how to rule in their midst! Therefore, I asked GOD to teach me and He did. He took all the bitterness, caused by deep betrayal, and replaced it with love; I learned to love again.
Suddenly, the time came and He told me to 'MOVE NOW', and I did not want to. Nonetheless, I had no choice but to move, so I moved to the place that He had shown me!

Now, when I look back at the place that I had to leave, I am so glad that I obeyed the voice of GOD. He saved me from so much 'noise' that would have corrupted my time with Him, among other things.

Therefore, if you are in a place that you would rather not be in, learn how to rule in the midst of your enemies. When you have mastered that, GOD will move you. In fact, perhaps He has already told you to move, but you do not want to! Please obey Him - you will be glad that you did.

Friday, September 27, 2019

Do Not Go Empty-Handed

Monday, September 9, 2019

The Language of War

The battle was HOT, but my Master gave me wisdom. You see, I needed to stay alive, even as I needed to remain SILENT; it was important that my 'area of operation' remain secret! Besides, they needed not, hear me speak; it was my only weapon.

However, as the arrows hit their mark, something changed inside here - I acquired a new language. In fact, when I talked to those that I had 'left behind', it was to make them believe that everything was fine.

Soon enough, I got ready to meet them but when I opened my mouth, to speak, it was in a language that they could not understand. At first, I was hurt; "how could they not understand me, yet we were family"? Nonetheless, at that moment, I understood that they could hardly understand a language of a war that they had not fought. Yet, I still wondered how they could expect to hear gentle words from someone, who spent precious time fighting fierce wars.